The greatest pains we experience in this life revolves around our relationships with people and God.
I say this because it is them who can ultimately touch the deepest parts of our soul. Whether or not you deny it, people determine what we feel, say or do. Few people care about what others think, most people seek the approval of other people.
We all have important people in our lives. Those we care about. Those we love. At times, you don't have to know a person long to give them a space in your heart. Whoever these people are in our lives, they are people whom you give a part of yourself to. And because they do, they have the power to hurt you.
Broken family relationships are one of the hardest things to mend. It takes years, often many long years, to seek forgiveness and to forgive. Best friends fight. And if they do, it's war. As they say,
'the biggest fights happen between the closest of people'. And that is really true. Whenever we fight with the people we care about, no matter which side, both are still deeply affected.
Even in love, there are situations that it doesn't take you long to care for someone, to give them a part of you. When you learn to like someone, you have already given a part of yourself to them. Even if you don't know it. And the moment that person hurts you, then you will feel that pain in your heart. You do not have to love a person for you to care about them.
You hurt because you cared. You hurt because that person became a part of your life that made you happy, made you smile like an idiot.
You will know that a person has become a part of your life, whether you've known him long or not, when he hurts you. And when he does, you will feel the pain down to the depths of your heart.
The pain can cut you like a knife. It can make you go down on your knees and cry. It can make you want to go back and change what happened.
And throughout all this experience, you will also have to learn to see who is worthy of staying in your life. All people: family, friends, husbands, boyfriends, acquaintances, they will hurt you at some point in your life, Whether it was an accident or on purpose. Even those that things that they have unknowingly done that have hurt you. But all of that is part of our human nature that is not perfect.
Again, learn to see the people whom you should keep. Someone who is worth the pain. There is no point in keeping people who do not care about you. Good relationships give and take. It is not one-sided.
It makes perfect sense to just let go if one person simply does not see you as someone important. Don't force yourself to stay in their lives. Pretty soon, they'll see you as a disturbance.
It hurts to let go. But you know you have to. But make sure you leave them a with good deed. Don't leave them with a bad memory of you. Trust me, they will respect that in the future.
The ones worth keeping are the ones who will be there for you when the storms come. They are those who would do so much for you. They are the ones whom you can count on always.
Keep them. And treasure them always.
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